Bisexual's Don't Exist So... I'm Not Real? Damn....
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Since this seems to be "Well, I'M [Sexuality], and I don't care about any of that stuff!" time, I'm pansexual. I hope to god I'm using the word right. I don't really care about gender, what gender you identify as, or what gender you used to be, I am attracted to femininity.
On Topic: Welcome to the Internet. Everything is a lie made up by every political party/government that you don't believe in.
On Topic: Welcome to the Internet. Everything is a lie made up by every political party/government that you don't believe in.
First and foremost, I want to just say that if you were intending to reference Swat Kats (the Radical Squadron) then you have my respect and admiration.SkarKrow said:
On the topic of bisexuality, I've never personally met a bisexual man, plenty of gay men and straight ones, but no bisexuals. I'm sure for some it could be a phase, hell most of the gay men I know "started" bisexual because they weren't completely sure which way they went. Also, I'd be lying if I said I didn't myself wonder if I'm not a bit of both ends. Honestly though . . . people giving you crap at school for being different is not a new concept, it's a time honored horrible tradition but remember, you're not the only one who's suffering, pretty much every bully that even goes so far as to just make a snide remark is trying to take attention off of their own problems.
There is a hint of truth to this. Back in my younger days, I was part of that alternative group in HS and a lot of my friends experimented with bisexuality before finally sticking with being straight or just gay. To my knowledge I only have one friend that's actually bisexual and dates both genders quite frequently. Er not dates but shags to be sure.
I honestly don't care about sexual orientation. The one friend who is bisexual is one of my two best friends in the whole wide world whether she munches carpet or takes the D i'll always support her.
I honestly don't care about sexual orientation. The one friend who is bisexual is one of my two best friends in the whole wide world whether she munches carpet or takes the D i'll always support her.
Wow! I've been lurking around the forums for a while now, but this seems like a perfect topic to introduce myself with. First off I want to say that I completely understand where you're coming from and sympathize with what happened to you. I went to a catholic high school for four years and when I finally came out as a male bisexual a week before my graduation it literally ruined my life. I lost my best friend who I'd known since early childhood, and had to put up with alot of gay-bashing from him as well as from the douche-bag underclassmen (they're the kind of kids who go on xbox live and scream obscenities at the other time during a game of MW3). That along with having to hide my secret from my ultra-conservative, red-neck, Texan brother has led to very bad depression and social anxiety. On the other hand though in college there are lots of support groups for guys like us, so don't let anything some dumbass on the internet says discourage you. I hope I wish you the best of luck and Hope you get this sorted out one day!SkarKrow said:
I love it when people arbitrarily throw out quotes like "bisexuality isn't a real thing" or "it's a phase" it gives me a nice ol' throwback to the damn old idea that homosexuality is a choice.SkarKrow said:
Seriously, why is it so difficult to comprehend that some people like boys, some girls and some both? is it that hard to comprehend? I suppose i could make an assumption that it's hard top believe on account of having known some people who said they were bisexual, but never touched a person of their own/ the other sex (only one, ne'er the other that is) but we're dead sure that they were bi-sexual anyway. and you know what? fine. Who am i to second guess anyone elses sexuality anyway? i don't know how they feel when they look at other people.
live and let live.
I can't count how many times I've seen a thread almost identical to this. Man I'm getting old and crotchety.
Bisexuality is not a phase, it is not fake and it is not greedy. I believe people who say this of Bisexuals also say the same of Agnostics or any other grey feeling as a way of saying "You're with us or you're against us."
Such people should be ignored. If you like guys, great, if you like girls, great, if you like both, why the hell not? If you like neither... Well okay sure, but... Really?
Such people should be ignored. If you like guys, great, if you like girls, great, if you like both, why the hell not? If you like neither... Well okay sure, but... Really?
Pansexuality is attraction to persons whose traits that are not inherently sexual, it is the correct term. I don't know what school you learnt your English from but having sex with inanimate objects is Paraphilia and not a sexual orientation. You disrespect real pansexuals by using the term incorrectly.Fiad said:
pan·sex·u·al/panˈsekSHo͞oəl/
Adjective:
Not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regard to gender or activity.
Noun:
A person who is sexually inclusive in this way.
par·a·phil·i·a/ˌparəˈfilēə/
Noun:
A condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities.
Interestingly enough there are other studies that suggest that people who are 100% straight or gay are actually rare. Tanking it on a sort of sliding scale they suggest that being 50/50 is also unusual and most of us are bisexual, just to different degrees.
Soooo ... How do bi-sexuals choose their partner? I'm just curious? Is it first come first serve ? Or flavor of the month? What happens when you are dating a guy and suddenly feel the urge to date/sleep with a girl ? I'm dead serious , i want to know how this works. Is it easier to date another bi-sexual ? Or do they go with both straight and homosexuals. I WANT ANSWERS DAMMIT!
OT: Gah , as long as everyone consents, who cares?
OT: Gah , as long as everyone consents, who cares?
I will do anything once and while I am married I do have a certain attraction to certain types of guys... though I doubt anything other than a fling could become of it. Not sure if thats bi or not.SkarKrow said:
I guess the question should be is bi being able to fall in love live and die as well as have sex with both genders? or can it just be a "Yeah I'd hit that."?
This is actually spot on for me.Simskiller said:
I usually don't go around yelling that I am bisexual because i don't think anyone else has anything to do with it.
don't certain brain chemicals also factor in?teeth said:
[small/]I'm a fraternal twin and somtimes I wonder of I stole all my bothers testosterone[/small]
why wouldn;t it be? sexual attraction is only one part of "love" isn't it? personality counts as wellZack Alklazaris said:
I hear it all the time, I still can't get my head round it. I mean, personally, I can't imagine being unable to be attracted to either gender, but I can still entertain the possibility that straight and gay people exist. On a side note
I mean, consider that once a person reaches their late 20s, they're less likely to be jumping from partner to partner and more likely to get into a long term relationship. And unless it's a poly relationship, (which, incidentally, my bisexual aunt was in with a man and a woman, and this was in her 30s) then it means they'll have had to have picked a heterosexual or a homosexual relationship. And maybe they'll only end up being in relationships with that gender throughout the rest of their adult life, but maybe they won't. (My mum dated a guy in his 40s for two years who was mostly into guys. When they split up, he started seeing a man.)
Personally, I have only ever been in heterosexual relationships, but I'm bisexual. I fit into your 16-26 age bracket, but I've certainly not been 'experimenting'... no girl's ever been interested in me back! But I've been in love with a girl and in general hot girls arouse me, so bisexual is what I am. And maybe in ten years time I'll stop fancying girls and chalk it down to me just being a horny young person, but it still leaves the people who that doesn't happen to.
I find it really sad that she's had the media message of BODY HAIR IS UNFEMININE drilled into her so much that she actually feels like underarm hair is akin to transvestitism (which seems to be sort of what she's saying).SkarKrow said:
In my own personal experience, I've known people still identifying and (for lack of a better word) 'practicing' as bisexuals well into their 40s, at least. Maybe I've just been around more adults on the LGBT scene.Mugen said:
I mean, consider that once a person reaches their late 20s, they're less likely to be jumping from partner to partner and more likely to get into a long term relationship. And unless it's a poly relationship, (which, incidentally, my bisexual aunt was in with a man and a woman, and this was in her 30s) then it means they'll have had to have picked a heterosexual or a homosexual relationship. And maybe they'll only end up being in relationships with that gender throughout the rest of their adult life, but maybe they won't. (My mum dated a guy in his 40s for two years who was mostly into guys. When they split up, he started seeing a man.)
Personally, I have only ever been in heterosexual relationships, but I'm bisexual. I fit into your 16-26 age bracket, but I've certainly not been 'experimenting'... no girl's ever been interested in me back! But I've been in love with a girl and in general hot girls arouse me, so bisexual is what I am. And maybe in ten years time I'll stop fancying girls and chalk it down to me just being a horny young person, but it still leaves the people who that doesn't happen to.
Ok. I already know exactly how this is gonna get taken, But I will try to do it anyway and see if I can get through it retaining the understanding it is not my personal opinion.
From the perspective of the overall general populous, Some see it as bisexuals do not exist on the basis, if you are a guy, once you engage in gay activity, it becomes more like breaking the plane in football and you are scored as being gay.
Now... that is indeed a glib interpretation of it. However...
From a psychological study standpoint, the position can be held that there is essentially no need for sexuality in this sense, and the only practical ones become in essence binary. On/off, Gay/Straight. However In this context it affirms there is no need for deviated sexualities because your sexuality is whatever you are in at the moment. This means looks as sexuality in the moment, as opposed to it being a character trait to have the whole of the individual identified with.
There IS logical reason for this. Sexuality while may be essentially wrote in stone for some, in many cases does in fact evolve as the individual evolves. That variable nature makes the concept of identifying with ones sexuality impractical and in essence lacking. In looking at sexuality in this form, it also helps to eliminate the concepts of divides that we all know all too well that people on ALL sides of sexuality use to separate from non like minded individuals. This view would in essence look at sexuality more as one Universal sexuality, or just... Sexuality.
So I can see where some people would think in that glib manner expressed in the beginning. I can also see where trying to remove dividing points from sexuality is actually a good idea and somewhat progressive and forward thinking.
It reminds me of the old saying regarding womens rights. To paraphrase, Women will never be equal as long as they take pride of being the first woman to do this, or the first woman to do that. The goal has to be not to be the first woman... But to be the first.
So yeah... While there well may be some hate/intolerance driving it, simple fact is, not all of it is and when you think about it and broaden your perspectives, you might see merit in it too, when it is used properly.
Please dont quote me to death like I were a baby seal beggin for a good clubbin
/raises flame shield.
From the perspective of the overall general populous, Some see it as bisexuals do not exist on the basis, if you are a guy, once you engage in gay activity, it becomes more like breaking the plane in football and you are scored as being gay.
Now... that is indeed a glib interpretation of it. However...
From a psychological study standpoint, the position can be held that there is essentially no need for sexuality in this sense, and the only practical ones become in essence binary. On/off, Gay/Straight. However In this context it affirms there is no need for deviated sexualities because your sexuality is whatever you are in at the moment. This means looks as sexuality in the moment, as opposed to it being a character trait to have the whole of the individual identified with.
There IS logical reason for this. Sexuality while may be essentially wrote in stone for some, in many cases does in fact evolve as the individual evolves. That variable nature makes the concept of identifying with ones sexuality impractical and in essence lacking. In looking at sexuality in this form, it also helps to eliminate the concepts of divides that we all know all too well that people on ALL sides of sexuality use to separate from non like minded individuals. This view would in essence look at sexuality more as one Universal sexuality, or just... Sexuality.
So I can see where some people would think in that glib manner expressed in the beginning. I can also see where trying to remove dividing points from sexuality is actually a good idea and somewhat progressive and forward thinking.
It reminds me of the old saying regarding womens rights. To paraphrase, Women will never be equal as long as they take pride of being the first woman to do this, or the first woman to do that. The goal has to be not to be the first woman... But to be the first.
So yeah... While there well may be some hate/intolerance driving it, simple fact is, not all of it is and when you think about it and broaden your perspectives, you might see merit in it too, when it is used properly.
Please dont quote me to death like I were a baby seal beggin for a good clubbin
/raises flame shield.
