What do guys get nervous about?
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Im a fairly neurotic person, which has been tempered a little by age, and tend to worry about lots of things, posting them all would be both a waste of my and your times.
But in relation to your more specific question- For a long, long time I worried about how I seemed to have no luck with women, but what worried me more was how this didnt bother me nearly as much as it seemed to bother other people- all the worries you can think of came tumbling out of this, but recently I realised that its because I just dont have that high of a libido.
Im a fairly neurotic person, which has been tempered a little by age, and tend to worry about lots of things, posting them all would be both a waste of my and your times.
But in relation to your more specific question- For a long, long time I worried about how I seemed to have no luck with women, but what worried me more was how this didnt bother me nearly as much as it seemed to bother other people- all the worries you can think of came tumbling out of this, but recently I realised that its because I just dont have that high of a libido.
I'm in that exact spot of just overweight where clothes entirely conceal it, but it's very obvious if I take them off. It hasn't bothered me enough to do some exersise and get rid of the excess, but it's always there in the back of my mind. Very annoying.
Not lasting long enough is a pretty common concern, to the point where a lot of guys I know try to carry on after they've.. finished.. and it just makes the girl they're with feel awkward. Peronally, I learnt a few tricks that let the guy last longer (no I'm not going to go into that here, go talk to Google) so I don't get nervous about it per sec... only embarased when the tricks don't work.
By the way, some advice with the scars; there are some people who value them as an attractive feature instead of just not being bothered about them (some people like me, for instance). Be careful with these people, I've heard stories go both ways where one partner has a fetish for the other's insecurity: sometimes the insecure partner feels fantastic that the thing they're nervous about is actually liked, sometimes it gets worse because it's always brought out. Like me with scars, I'd always find myself tracing them, which could make the problem worse.
Not lasting long enough is a pretty common concern, to the point where a lot of guys I know try to carry on after they've.. finished.. and it just makes the girl they're with feel awkward. Peronally, I learnt a few tricks that let the guy last longer (no I'm not going to go into that here, go talk to Google) so I don't get nervous about it per sec... only embarased when the tricks don't work.
By the way, some advice with the scars; there are some people who value them as an attractive feature instead of just not being bothered about them (some people like me, for instance). Be careful with these people, I've heard stories go both ways where one partner has a fetish for the other's insecurity: sometimes the insecure partner feels fantastic that the thing they're nervous about is actually liked, sometimes it gets worse because it's always brought out. Like me with scars, I'd always find myself tracing them, which could make the problem worse.
Bit of a mix of what most people have already said.
Except I'm gonna go ahead and add hugs... I don't like hugs, i don't like hugging people, i don't like BEING hugged by people.
If someone DOES hug me, i just stand there feeling all awkward.
In fact...touching in general, if you're touching me it better be for a damn good reason...
Except I'm gonna go ahead and add hugs... I don't like hugs, i don't like hugging people, i don't like BEING hugged by people.
If someone DOES hug me, i just stand there feeling all awkward.
In fact...touching in general, if you're touching me it better be for a damn good reason...
Scarring my skin is something i stopped caring about years ago. It's not that i like them i just live with them. I play a lot of sports and falling is just a part of it. There's a really nasty one on my back but I've never had any remarks on them. I dont think girls really care as long as they are horny enough.Ironrose said:
And as mentioned several time's, the size of my penis is something that get's me nervous every single time. but from what i'm reading here its a pretty normal complaint.
I find it hard to talk to people i dont know that well some times (even harder to talk to women) mabye cause i dont feel cmfortable talking to people i dont know :/ my boss does say i have poor people skills.
as for sex, yea nervous when starting out, like all the others (am i any good ect ect) more for the first few time or with someone new.
But i am scared? to make a move if you get what i mean, dont know how they will take it (the age old rejection thing
as for sex, yea nervous when starting out, like all the others (am i any good ect ect) more for the first few time or with someone new.
But i am scared? to make a move if you get what i mean, dont know how they will take it (the age old rejection thing
Whats not to love, besides the bugs and sharks? I live in the UK and your houses are cheaper than ours and bigger with more stuff, your food is cheaper, people seem more laid back, it's hotter/nicer weather. I watched a programme a few years ago and there were jobs galore, the guy in the show was a brick layer and he looked through the paper and there were 6 pages (front and back) of brick laying jobs ...Ironrose said:
The only thing I don't like is your net seems to go out at random and your government loathes games. Oh, and there greedy buggers, 10k for a visa! Then I need to buy a house, get over there, move my stuff over there ... not good. Need to get me one of them green card marriges.
I want to moce to Perth though 'cos I know people there and it looks amazing! I used to know somebody who lived in Hobart though.
Anyway, I am miles off topic.
I think it's strange that guys simply wont accept that size is far far from being a deal breaker. I've had a fair few small guys but it has never been a problem whatsoever, however the one or two larger guy's I've had have caused a lot more problems. You do NOT want to be huge because girls find it intimidating, too unwieldy for bj's and too painful.Pimwing said:
I don't really have any insecurities in the bedroom at least with the feedback I've gotten from the women I've been with but I don't like to take my shirt off during sex because of the long foot long scar I got in a car wreck when I was fourteen but thats about it.
Well, men are generally worried about being accepted, that the ladies would think they are pretty, and that they would be impressed of their genitalia in the case of the bedroom.
Then again, I AM an overly feminist male...
Then again, I AM an overly feminist male...
This reminds me of an article I read once in a magazine (yes guys: the little black squiggles in those magazines really do make WORDS! I have tested it myself!), there were three women writing the article and two of them had not slept with a large guy; both of them wanted to but the one who had said she'd never do so again because she was 'walking like a penguin for the rest of the week'. If you're intersted, and let's face it you are, the highest rated overall was the totally average option; six inches (give or take an inch) and not quite perfectly straight. The second highest was the 'so short it's barely there' option. I kid you not (they said being so short made it great for oral sex).Ironrose said:
That make's you 1 of the 2 people I know that think they are to big.Ironrose said:
come to think of it, I think that no one will say that their body is perfect. But that's just human nature i guess.
oh one more thing that make's me shiver and sweat. having to play a gig. no matter how often i do it i'm alway's nervous